5 ways to prioritize your marriage
Let’s talk 5 ways to make sure you and your spouse are connecting and staying healthy!
Working whether it’s full-time or part-time inside the home outside the home, momming, and managing a house are all a lot of work. Like 2 or three full-time jobs! And when we take a step back to evaluate everything we do we are stretched thin!
But we want to be active and present wives. And that can be hard when life is already so full. I can tell you very honestly that I am coming out of a season of not doing this well.
I love my husband dearly he is the best and I am not sure I could function without him. We are probably the healthiest codependent people I know…no not really but you get me right!
I am not great at adding him to my list not that I think marriage is a to-do but
Here are ways I am working at making my marriage and Jesse and higher priority to ensure our marriage stays strong and healthy
Date nights- don’t have to spend money let’s talk cheap or free
Games and a glass of wine our favorite is the monopoly deal
Movie in rent one or watch a new Netflix movie
Cook a meal together after the kids go down there are some really cool meal prep boxes for couples i think this would be super fun
Have sex- hang on! Stick with me. If we are not connected intimately we will struggle for connection in every other way. want a better resource for this…my friends Gary Thomas and Deb Fileta have a great book called Married Sex and I love recommending it to couples!
Have the hard convos. The ones about needs, expectations, roles around the house, and the things that matter to you. You need to be on the same page. Shoot we need to be reading the same book!! I know that when we are not things are wonky, and lonely and everyone is frustrated. Have conversations!
Find something to do together. Where it can be mostly just the 2 of you. Walk the dogs, watch a show, go to the gym, grocery shop?! Something that is just or mostly just the 2 of you. It’ll give you something to talk about, look forward to, and bond over. When we do this it creates a connection. When we have a lack of connection we have a lack of intimacy. Jesse and I got married at 18 and 20 and our goal was to grow up together. That meant we had a lot of the same hobbies. We really intended to not take on a lot of solo sports or hobbies because the others can’t be a part of it and there is a lack of connection or the opportunity to connect over a new thing missing. When I got super into quilting that wasn’t something Jesse loved but when I did that he would tinker with his snowmachine. We were intentional that the time apart wasn’t just one-sided. I got really into paintball in one season because I wanted to bond with him over something he loved. When I started podcasting he took up learning the ins and out with me so that we could grow what has come to be a really fruitful business. We got into the gym together and as he
This last one is something I have had to work really hard in! And that’s so crazy because Jesse is literally the nicest! Speak kindly about your spouse to others. It’s like the law of what you look for you see? Ya know. But if you are in the habit of bad-mouthing or speaking unkind words about your partner you are only going to see bad things. There was this one time years ago at our gym when I made a joke about Jesse that wasn’t kind. It was ugly and rude and I knew I had to apologize to those who heard me.
So I know this is a break from our regular conversation. But as moms who are working, and managing a home I want us to make sure that we are honoring a relationship that matters to us, to God, and to our families. And if you are a single mom take these 5 things and do them with your kids! Find a hobby to do together, watch a show, and take an intentional night each week where you “date” or treat them to a special chick-fi-la dinner or blizzard dessert.
When we are intentional with the relationship that are the closest to us I believe we will be intentional with ourselves.
I am thankful to you, for our time together and I cannot wait to hang out next week!
