3 Ways to get back on the same page with your partner

Communicate 

-talk it out

-make sure each of you are aware of the others’ needs/ wants/ point of view

Compromise

-you are not out for each others’ mutual destruction. 

-Giving in to some part of the discussion is not “losing”. 

-Your spouse your best interests at heart. 

Commit

-if you have compromised, stick with it! Don’t try to keep bargaining or taking what you agreed to leave

-let your yes be yes and your no be no

-commit to loving and serving your spouse. 

Be thankful for this process. 

Call out where this works, affirm your spouse in the small wins, where you felt loved or served, or where they compromised even when they really didn’t want to. Love them through it, feel loved by them through it. 

If these don’t work, or continually cause division, 

Counseling

-seek counseling early and often, not just when things are dire. 

-counseling is not a sign of weakness, it is proof that you want a strong, lasting, happy relationship (with your spouse and yourself!!)